On Prioritizing Family

“If you want to change the world, go home and love your family.”

– Mother Teresa



Let’s say you’re having a hard time getting along with your family.

Maybe because you’re living away from your parents entering a college or getting a new job.

Or because you just don’t like your parents or siblings (or both).

Or because you’re too busy and don’t have time to spend together.

Whatever the reason is – I really want you to think about your family as one of the most important things in life.

Your family is your root and your unconditional supporter.

Whether you’re rich or poor, healthy or unhealthy, five years old or dying tomorrow, your family matters to you.

Let’s talk about why and how to prioritize family.

Why You Should Prioritize Family

When you get old enough and financially independent, you don’t “need” family taking care of you.

You now live on your own. You are no longer dependent on your family. Congratulations.

But living on your terms doesn’t mean you should stop caring about your family.


There are so many reasons, but love and support are the two main reasons.

Love: if you live life without love, your mentality gets negatively affected, and as a result, it’ll be harder to be happy. [1] Family is the best place to love and be loved.

Support: Most families offer unconditional support when you’re in difficulties. No one can live alone, and you need supporters to back you up.

However, the time you can spend with your family doesn’t last forever. Before regretting, when some of your family passed, I encourage you to prioritize your family.

Tim Urban, the author of Wait But Why, reminds us that your time with your parents isn’t so much left once you graduate and start working. The same can be said to your kids or siblings. [2]

Act now, or you’ll regret it.

How to Prioritize Your Family

Prioritizing doesn’t mean you should spend most of your time with your family.

If you’re working for a company or even going to a school, it’s almost impossible. You spend most of your time at the office (or in front of the computer if working remotely) or school.

But with the advance of technology, anyone (at least people reading this) can communicate with their family, wherever they are.

Spend a minute or two to send a quick note to your family every day. Tell them what happened daily, and that’s a good starting point.

Treat the relationships as a living thing – if you don’t take care of it’ll die out.

Occasionally have phone calls for critical matters, and of course, try to meet in person at important events.

Living together? Even better! Talk to them, go out with them, do things you feel natural, and have a great time with your family.

While working, studying, or being absorbed in hobbies, there are always “important things” in your calendar. Be it assignments or homework. Sure they’re important.

But really, no one knows how life turns. To be proud of yourself when the last moment has come, prioritize your family.


“My family isn’t supportive “

I intentionally didn’t write this post for people whose family isn’t very supportive or appreciate your being. There are undoubtedly many people suffering from family troubles, big or small.

While I hope these problems will be sorted out, and everyone will have excellent family relationships, some family went too far, to the point they can’t fix it.

I’ll cover this topic in a different post, but a quick answer is, “don’t feel like you’re alone.” Your friends, colleagues, and significant other would be your help.

Even if they aren’t available, there are facilities and groups that help people like you – don’t ever think you’re alone. Use someone’s help.

“My family is gone/passed away.”

First, I’m sorry to hear it and hope you got over it while reading this.

Though they might not be with you anymore, your memory with them lasts forever.

Like mentioned about the family relationships in the article, take care of your memory carefully, and appreciate your deceased family.


[1] https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/sapient-nature/201401/the-need-love

[2] https://waitbutwhy.com/2015/12/the-tail-end.html

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